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What is seksual health?

All sex therapy approaches appear to share the underlining assumption that there is a “natural” or “healthy” state of sexual functioning that therapists aim to restore for the client. Petitgirard (1992:5) describes sexual health as the positive expression of a person’s sexuality: “… sexual health is not just about sexual intercourse and reproduction. It includes such issues as self-esteem, self-expression, caring for others and cultural values”. King, Cameron & Downey (1991: 268) define a sexually healthy person as someone who feels comfortable with his/her sexuality and who feels free to choose whether or not he/she wishes to try a variety of sexual behaviours. Sexual health is defined by the World Health Organization (1975:41) as: “The integration of the physical, emotional, intellectual and social aspects of sexual being, in ways that are positively enriching and that enhance personality, communication and love”.

Common Ground Sexuality (Author unknown, 2001:5) defines sexual health as: “… women’s and men’s ability to enjoy and express their sexuality, and to do so free from risk of sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancy, coercion, violence and discrimination. Sexual health also means being able to have an informed, enjoyable and safe sex life, based on self-esteem, a positive approach to human sexuality, and mutual respect in sexual relations. Sexual health enhances life, personal relations and the expression of one’s sexual identity. It is positively enriching, includes pleasure, and enhances self-determination, communication and relationships”. In The Promotion of Sexual Health: Recommendations for Action (Author Unknown, 2000:6), sexual health is defined as: “…the experience of the ongoing process of physical, psychological, and socio-cultural well-being related to sexuality”.

It is therefore evident that human sexuality and the term sexual health are multidimensional. The notion of sexual health however implies a positive approach to human sexuality, and the purpose of sexual healthcare should be the enhancement of life and personal relationships and not merely counseling and care related to procreation and physical problems.
Sexual health is not just about sexual intercourse and reproduction. It includes such issues as self-esteem, self-expression, caring for others and cultural values. In sum, our sexuality is experienced and expressed in all that we are, what we feel, think, and do.

Elmari specialises in the following:
  • Sexology
  • Individual Psychotherapy
  • Clinical Hypnotherapy
  • Sex therapy
  • Couples Therapy
  • Relationship/Marital Enrichment
  • Pre-marital Counselling
  • Conflict Resolution and Effective Communication Skills
  • Divorce Counselling
  • Trauma Counselling

The diagnoses and treatment of male and female sexual dysfunction, eg
  • Loss of sexual desire
  • Libido differences
  • Sexual Pain Disorders:
    Vulvadinia ext
  • Inability to reach orgasm
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Ejaculation control and timing
  • Sexual behaviour disorders
  • General Sexual Problems
  • Sexual Enrichment